Reflection can come in many ways. Today I found myself reflecting on my parents’ marriage and my upbringing. Mom is one strong lady. She endured so many years of control and abuse, and yet is an amazing, strong, virtuous woman. As I went to my Bible tonight for study, God led me back to Proverbs 31 with a new goal…reflecting on pearls of virtue.
Pearls are something that every woman typically owns. Whether authentic and expensive, or imitation and cost-effective, that are beautiful. Pearls have always been a sign of purity, class, elegance and beauty to me. Simple but beautiful, pearls can adorn nearly any attire. They make a statement…just like the pearls God left for women in Proverbs 31:10-31.
I sat down with my Bible, a notebook, my colored pens, and my Bible Gateway app on my phone. I absolutely love using that app when I study because it allows me to look at other versions of the passages I am studying, in turn helping me to better comprehend God’s message for me. So, tonight it made sense to begin at the beginning. Verse 10.
“Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.” (Proverbs 31:10 NKJV). I’ve read this verse many times before, but tonight I decided to break it down even further. It was time to look at the meaning of virtuous. You see, over the years I found myself somewhat intimidated by the idea of being a Proverbs 31 wife. I did not bake my own bread, cook elaborate meals, or sew my own clothes. For some reason, my mind always took me to those places and continually made me feel inadequate as a wife. For some reason tonight, as I considered Mom starting over in life on her own, I found myself wanting to be sure that my dear husband was getting the wife that he deserves. Reflecting made me think about the legacy that I would want to leave for him, and our son if God calls me home before my hubby.
So, I put my pen to paper and wrote out Proverbs 31:10; first in the New King James Version (NKJV), then in the New Living Translation (NLT), next in the Amplified version (AMP), and finally in the New International Version (NIV). As I began to compare the versions, virtue stood out to me…what did virtue really mean? There it was…a shining pearl of wisdom in God’s word. Morally excellent. Being a virtuous woman suddenly wasn’t at all intimidating. It had absolutely nothing to do with baking bread or washing clothes with homemade detergent. It is all about being moral! In order to be a virtuous wife, step one is to be a woman with moral excellent. A woman who is spiritual, capable, intelligent, strong, and has worth.
Tonight, I can put pearl number one down with excitement and enthusiasm. Why? Because being virtuous is attainable! It’s truly about being a woman who does her best to obey God, live like Jesus, honors and loves her husband…and does all with her whole heart.
As I look at my sweet husband’s handsome face tonight, my heart is warm and full. Every time I think about him or see him I feel that way. Yep, he’s a pretty special guy. Tonight, there’s an added warmth to my full heart, it’s the pride I can feel as I reflect on the wife I have been, and the wife I strive each and every day to be…knowing that through God I’m doing the very best I can to be virtuous. Pearl one is in my crown, and being that Proverbs 31 woman isn’t so intimidating after all.